Drag Racing - Are You Too Hard on Yourself?

I am. When I race and when I screw up, which canbecome a habit. This is a very bad habit that needs
seem to be pretty often, I am harder on myselfto be stopped. Why? Because it is affecting
than anyone else is. There have been many times Isomething I love, racing. It's also affecting the people
wished I had remembered to put a paper sack in theI love around me like my husband and friends. I'm not
car to wear over my head when I came back up thesure why I have started to be like this, it may have
return road. One of these days I may do that just tosomething to do with my past. I'm not going to
give the guys at the time slip booth something towaste time however, digging up the past to try and
laugh at.figure out why I feel this way. The past is the past,
I must think that everyone including the guy gettinglet's let it lay there and move on. I can't change what
popcorn saw my mistake and must be laughinghappened in the past, but there is one thing I do
hysterically at me. What do I think they are going tohave control over - my thoughts. I must change the
do, boo me or something? I must really think thatway I think which ultimately changes the way I react
people care what I did enough to laugh at mywhen things don't work out at a race.
mistake. Therein lies the mistake, that most people,I know I am always saying encouraging words to
one, even notice and two, that they care.other racers who may be having a bad day, so I
I find myself apologizing to my husband for lettingneed to start extending the same kindness to
him down. He is always telling me I haven't let himmyself. Realizing that everyone has a bad day, that
down and that I should just have fun. I am havingeveryone makes mistakes and that my mistake
fun, just not as much fun as I could be if I wasn't socouldn't possibly be the worst one ever made would
hard on myself. I often times hear myself makingbe a good first step. Good, seasoned racers have
derogatory remarks about my driving to others in alost every way there is to lose a race. So I must
joke form. Like I'm poking fun at myself, but not in aremind myself when I make a mistake that cost me
nice way. That can get old to others. I must soundthe race I can say with great pride that I am
pathetic like that one round of racing will mean thatbecoming a more seasoned racer - a veteran with
we won't eat this week or something. I nevermore experience than I had when I pulled into the
thought of myself as a drama queen, but even I gettrack today.
sick of tripping over my bottom lip. One side of myI also need to remind myself of the times I did really
brain is telling me, "You dufus, you have no businesswell. I need to tell myself in order to be good, you
being out here." and the other, more rational side ishave to make mistakes. Simple as that. The more
screaming, "Come on, it's only racing! Have some fun!mistakes I make then ultimately the better I'll get. I
Everyone screws up." You know, things I tell otherhope that those of you, who do the same thing,
people.beat up on yourself harder than anyone else does,
If I have a bad light or I red light or if I let a guy getthat you also learn that life is made up of successes
around me at the stripe I am always kicking myselfand failures. We have to fail so we know when it is
and saying I have a great car that has a lousy driver.we've succeeded.
That is a terrible thing to say and if someone elseBesides, giving someone else like those in the stands
other than myself had said it to me I'd be fightingor another racer something to laugh at is a good
mad. So why do I let myself get away with it?quality to have. I like to think that when I screw up I
Because I have done it for so long I believe it hasbring joy to someone else.