| Now that you have distanced yourself and | | | | attached, any pleasurable connections we make |
| learned how to edit images internally, it's | | | | to the object of our phobia will have the |
| time close the distance to the image you fear | | | | effect of removing the phobia as a |
| to see how you did. You can also use a | | | | debilitating force in our lives. |
| technique I call mixed connections to | | | | |
| overcome fear. | | | | I remember teaching a seminar once, when a |
| | | | man in the audience stood up and said, "I |
| Now that you have distanced yourself and | | | | have a phobia of flying." |
| learned how to edit images internally, it's | | | | |
| time close the distance to the image you fear | | | | I looked over at him in front of hundreds of |
| to see how you did. | | | | other participants and asked, "Do you like |
| | | | sex?" |
| This should be done one step at a time. | | | | |
| | | | "What?!" |
| First, move from the third to the second | | | | |
| position. Go down from the blimp to the | | | | "Do you like sex?" |
| bleachers or from the living room to the | | | | |
| Houston control center. | | | | "Huh...?" |
| | | | |
| Become the observer. View the events from | | | | He was a bit stunned by the question. |
| there. | | | | |
| | | | "I'm asking, do you like sex? Yes? Or no?" |
| How do they appear to you? How do you feel? | | | | |
| | | | "Yes..." |
| If you are still uncomfortable, go back to | | | | |
| the third position and change the image even | | | | "OK, when you have sex, are you on the top or |
| more. | | | | on the bottom?" |
| | | | |
| If, however, you feel comfortable observing | | | | "What?!" |
| the events from a distance, then move down on | | | | |
| the playing field and see how it is from | | | | "When you have sex, are you on the top or on |
| there. | | | | the bottom?" |
| | | | |
| You should be just fine. If not, you can | | | | "I guess both." |
| always go back and change your internal | | | | |
| imagery even more. | | | | "Airplanes are a lot like that," I said. |
| | | | "When we get into turbulence, it's up and |
| You can add beautiful scents, delicious | | | | down, up and down." |
| flavors, sights, sounds, and senses. | | | | |
| | | | His phobia was instantly cured! |
| This process can reliably remove most phobias | | | | |
| in just 10 to 15 minutes time. | | | | He had begun to link up flying with sex, |
| | | | which was something that he enjoyed. |
| Mixed Connections | | | | |
| | | | It really is that simple and in most cases |
| Another way to change a phobia is through | | | | can be handled in a matter of minutes. |
| mixed connections. | | | | |
| | | | Change the representations or change the |
| Because a phobia is a total connection to | | | | connections and its goodbye phobia! |
| pain, with no pleasurable connections | | | | |