| Now that you have distanced yourself and | | | | Because a phobia is a total connection |
| learned how to edit images internally, | | | | to pain, with no pleasurable connections |
| it's time close the distance to the | | | | attached, any pleasurable connections we |
| image you fear to see how you did. You | | | | make to the object of our phobia will |
| can also use a technique I call mixed | | | | have the effect of removing the phobia |
| connections to overcome fear. | | | | as a debilitating force in our lives. |
| Now that you have distanced yourself and | | | | I remember teaching a seminar once, when |
| learned how to edit images internally, | | | | a man in the audience stood up and said, |
| it's time close the distance to the | | | | "I have a phobia of flying." |
| image you fear to see how you did. | | | | I looked over at him in front of |
| This should be done one step at a time. | | | | hundreds of other participants and |
| First, move from the third to the second | | | | asked, "Do you like sex?" |
| position. Go down from the blimp to the | | | | "What?!" |
| bleachers or from the living room to the | | | | "Do you like sex?" |
| Houston control center. | | | | "Huh...?" |
| Become the observer. View the events | | | | He was a bit stunned by the question. |
| from there. | | | | "I'm asking, do you like sex? Yes? Or |
| How do they appear to you? How do you | | | | no?" |
| feel? | | | | "Yes..." |
| If you are still uncomfortable, go back | | | | "OK, when you have sex, are you on the |
| to the third position and change the | | | | top or on the bottom?" |
| image even more. | | | | "What?!" |
| If, however, you feel comfortable | | | | "When you have sex, are you on the top |
| observing the events from a distance, | | | | or on the bottom?" |
| then move down on the playing field and | | | | "I guess both." |
| see how it is from there. | | | | "Airplanes are a lot like that," I said. |
| You should be just fine. If not, you can | | | | "When we get into turbulence, it's up |
| always go back and change your internal | | | | and down, up and down." |
| imagery even more. | | | | His phobia was instantly cured! |
| You can add beautiful scents, delicious | | | | He had begun to link up flying with sex, |
| flavors, sights, sounds, and senses. | | | | which was something that he enjoyed. |
| This process can reliably remove most | | | | It really is that simple and in most |
| phobias in just 10 to 15 minutes time. | | | | cases can be handled in a matter of |
| Mixed Connections | | | | minutes. |
| Another way to change a phobia is | | | | Change the representations or change the |
| through mixed connections. | | | | connections and its goodbye phobia! |